Wednesday, April 13, 2011

.: Two Is Better Than One. Or Not? :.

Two is better than one – the bible in Ecclesiastes 4:9 quotes “Two people are better than one. They can help each other in everything they do. Suppose someone falls down. Then his friend can help him up. But suppose the man who falls down doesn't have anyone to help him up. Then feel sorry for him! Or suppose two people lie down together. Then they'll keep warm. But how can one person keep warm alone? One person could be overpowered. But two people can stand up for themselves. And a rope made out of three cords isn't easily broken.”

It was one of the reason why I choose Taylor Swift & Boys Like Girls – Two Is Better Than One as my wedding march in song. Not because I am such a huge fan of Taylor Swift (or Boys Like Girls for that matter), but because of this bible verse. And also coz I wanted to be a lil different! [Huge thanks to Enoch (our pianist) & Bridget (our violinist) for the playing it so perfectly! :)

Now, the topic that I wanna rant about is partially to do with marriage – but more so also on divorce *gasp*

As much as it is to be taboo on uncommon, especially in our more conservative Asian background, I see it becoming more and more common, as if it is just like popping by the stores to get an IPhone or something along that line.

Both person who we know (case one a guy and case two a girl) are about our age and just got married like two or three years ago. And to make things worse – they both already have kids (who had to suffer the impact of growing up without both parents around). For both cases, I have only heard their side of the story; hence it is bias of me to state that it was the other spouse’s fault. Both have somewhat valid reasons to file for a divorce. Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I am condoning this action, but what I am trying to say is that their grounds of seeking separation are valid.

Sigh, I really don’t know what to rant, but rather to pose this questions out - is the covenant of marriage really to that of a meaningless piece of paper? Do people nowadays find it difficult to be attached to another for life? Is the marriage vows “for better for worse, till death do you part” (which JC & I teared when we both read it to each other) just a mere script that we read for the sake of it?

What is happening to the whole constituency of marriage?



bridgeT said...

awwwwwww thanks!

yeah u both teared and it was such a meaningful wedding!!!! with uncle jack's speech n song as well..i teared then. (:

well i guess nowadays some just don't wanna deal with the problem but create another. and perhaps along the way, both had lost themselves. they forgot who they are but just thinking im someone's hubby/wifey instead of who they are to the person.

okayy i think im not making sense. hahaha

Kathlynn said...

yeah, uncle jack song was soooo tooooouching - thankfully he agreed to sing at our wedding (coz its his last time singing tis song ever! *aunty angie's warning* hahaha)

i think it is ok to redefine yourself - coz at certain stage in life, you will be somebody's friend, somebody's wife, somebody's mother, somebody's grandmother, etc; but i think the key is not to lose yourself completely, retain that core identity that makes you YOU.

i dunno if in the above two cases, who have changed. the fact that everybody changes, quite scary isn't it? the uncertainty of whether he/she will change for the better/worse?

thankfully God is the same, ytd, today & tomorrow! my pillar of strength that i can COMPLETELY rely on! :) thank goodness for that CERTAINTY! if not i will jus go bonkers! :)

im nt makin much sense too! HAHA :)

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