.: Weekend Wedding :.

I attended my high school friend’s wedding during the raya holidays. It was my (unfortunately) first time being a ji mui. But fret not, unlike the bridesmaid, who’s role is usually entrusted to an unmarried relative of friend, there is no such ruling for ji muis. Means plenty of chance for me! :) Having said that, I have witness a married friend who became the bridesmaid for her best friend, so heck with conventionalism! *I have NOT been a bridesmaid before, still waiting for my best friends/cousins to get married and invite me to be theirs*

Her wedding turned out well, for most of the parts, but I felt that it could have been more organized.

I have taken notes, and here are a few tips that I would like to share to all brides-to-be:

1) Ensure that your ji muis arrive on time. To do that, make sure
i) give them a wake up call on the day itself (an much earlier for those who would take longer time to bath, make-up, dress-up, put on shoes, you get my drift)
ii) always give them a time 30 mins earlier than when you expect them to be there. with such, even if they are late for 30 minutes, they are still ‘on time’ according to your schedule

2) Ensure that you inform you aunties-uncles who are involved in the tea-serving (“chum cha”) ceremony to also come on time. Again, refer to 1) ii).

3) Ensure that you have enough fuel in your bridal car. Nothing worse that to drive you car all decorated and looking wedding-sy to a petrol kiosk. And to make your whole bridal entourage to wait at that. Tsk,tsk,tsk

4) Entrust someone to do the final run on the wedding day itself. It’s a day for the bride to sit back and relax and enjoy the moment and for her trusted friends/family to do all the worrying and running. I have yet to identify the trusted someone, but to not overburden anyone, I will divide into three – one at the tea ceremony, one at church and finally one at dinner.

5) Always apologize the next day, for there may be some parties that may feel offended for you may have accidentally ignored them, and things to that line. Not many may understand the stress that you are undergoing and to not greet, talk, smile, take picture, etc with each and everyone of them does not mean that you’re being arrogant or something to that line.

6) Always expect the unexpected. No matter how much you plan, how down to the nitty-gritty of things, it will never completely work out they way you have planned! *a note to myself coz I am having problem letting go and feel that I will most likely be running about in my wedding dress & shoes doing the last min touch up here and there, but I know I shouldn’t*

So let’s just see other brides to be attending my wedding make such notes too :)